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I often say that nature is one of my greatest teachers. Well, this summer nature literally came knocking on my door, or shall I say window. We’ve been living in our current house for eight years. Two months ago a new visitor arrived for extended periods several times a day.

At first I found it exciting and welcomed our feathered visitor. Then it became a nuisance. Nobody in their right mind would want to be woken up at 4 am by urgent knocking on your bathroom window.

We tried everything. Shouting. Shooing. Closing the blinds.

What on earth is wrong with this bird?

He was created to thrive in nature and yet it seemed as if his life mission was to get inside our house.

On further investigation I stumbled on an interesting fact. This bird, called the Batis, is very territorial. Especially in breeding season. They repeatedly and aggressively fly at reflective surfaces such as windows and mirrors.

Is this not ironic?

They use their energy to deliberately move towards reflecting surfaces. At first glance, they identify the moving object to be threatening and label it as the enemy followed by aggressive attacks. With a feeling of accomplishment they then return to their nests just to repeat the exercise a few minutes later by launching an attack on a new “enemy”.

Yet they are the enemy. They see their own reflection and fight with it.

So do humans.

We create inner splits where we divide against ourselves. Subconsciously, we create enemies within and then without realising it, we see our own reflection in another and call them the enemy. We fight aggressively. Sometimes we feel quite accomplished by winning a battle in the name of good and protecting our world. Our territory.

The next morning we get up and repeat the exercise.

WE DELIBERATELY SEEK OUT OUR OWN DISLIKED REFLECTION IN OTHERS, AND FIGHT WITH IT IN THEM.

This can be extremely tiring. A very high percentage of clients that knock on my door are tired. Tired of fighting. With others and with themselves.

Life Coaching offers a mirror. Once you acknowledge your true reflection and accept it to not only be yours but also embrace it, the tension diminishes and the repetitive behaviour is interrupted.

We fight less.

With others and ourselves.